Different Ways to Relax

American's enjoying bar life as well as sports on weekends always leave an impression on me. In Grey's Anatomy, every time when they are frustrated, they go to Joe’s Bar, ordering two cups of beer for themselves and another stranger, chatting with others who have the same feelings. But something can't be described always happen after that...for example, one night stand.

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Last weekend I went to a bar at night(Shhhh... (*///▽///*),a different one from the one I saw in the soap opera, a more modern and enthusiastic one. The young craziliy shaked their bodies on the dance floor according to the rhythm of the loudly pop music which beat our hearts and even made us deaf. Lights are flickering. It created a situation that you can only talk to another person when you shout near her ears. The person who stood like a wood surrounded by people looked like an alien. Right, that is me.

To be honest, how can I resonate with something I don't have the same feeling? Seems like the feeling that you have to laugh when you can't get the point of a joke. Resonance is something similar to your experience that really enables you to participate in it. To be honest, I am not a conventional girl who refuses to have an access to modern lifestyle but I can't really understand their choosing an explosion of music as a way to relax. In China,maybe we prefer to order a cup of drink or a plate of dessert and talk with friends in a quiet restaurant as relaxation. That is one of the cultural blocks, actually:)

Compared with bar, I think sports and concerts including baseball games are the very things that make me feel relaxed. Participating in a baseball games and a bowling game before, the feelings of victory and unity really impressed me that I could't help screaming out and jumping.

Different people from different background choose various ways to release themselves from high pressure. Maybe if I move to western country in the future, I have to accept the fact that my children dance crazily in the bar as well. ( To be honest, I hope not.) My principle is that it's not ethical to judge whether other's lifestyle is good or bad because you are not one part of them.
As a Chinese proverb goes,“子非鱼，安知鱼之乐？”(You are not a fish, how do you know exactly its happiness?) It reflects the same idea.